“If I just loose 10 more pounds…”
“I am going to start that cleanse tomorrow…”
“When I loose this weight…”
“I ate so much today, I feel so fat…”
“I hate her, she is so much prettier than I am…”
“Tomorrow I will go to the gym. And then I’ll go every day after that, for the rest of my life. And I will lose weight. It’ll be easier than I expect it to. And then my hair will grow out and it’ll be thicker than last time. And then I’ll be prettier. And then I’ll wear sleeveless dresses all the time and I’ll be happy?
That moment is lying to you.” via from Clutch
As women, we are all victims of self-defeating statements. After I read the first part of the article, “Stop Waiting to Be Prettier by Clutch Magazine, I have come to the conclusion that women are at war with themselves. You know what? No one is going to win.
Today, I challenge all women to avoid these negative ASS statements. There is always someone who is going to be prettier than you, have more money than you, has a better job than you, etc. That doesn’t mean that you aren’t perfect in your own way. You might not think so, but there is someone who wants to be just like you. They want your hair, your clothes, your man, your shoes, your lifestyle. I promise.
“So you might as well learn how to stand up straight now, and stop tripping, and notice when people appreciate you.” But most of all learn to appreciate yourself.
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Sending encouragement to you all.
I keep on dying again.
Veins collapse, opening like the Small fists of sleeping Children.
Memory of old tombs, Rotting flesh and worms do Not convince me against The challenge.
The years And cold defeat live deep in Lines along my face.
They dull my eyes, yet I keep on dying, Because I love to live.
As black women we are often put into a box of either vixen, Mamie, diva or soul sister. However, in our global world, what it means to be a black girl is becoming less and less concrete. From fashion to music, black women are stepping outside the box and breaking down genres and stereotypes with their beautiful, unique flair.
Enter the quirky black girl. She’s the girl listening to Little Dragon, reading Proust and wearing sunflowers in her hair. She’s less concerned with the latest trends as she is with expressing herself whether it be through an interpretive dance, a raging metal band or a vintage frock.
The originator of quirky black girl style is none other then the legendary dancer, Josephine Baker. An outcast in her own community, Josephine danced her way through Europe, breaking down barriers and stepping outside of the norm with her infamous “banana skirt dance”. She spawned a legion of African American style icons who aren’t afraid to be the “atypical” black girl.
Every decade has had its eccentric icon; from the 80s over-the-top antics of supermodel/singer Grace Jones to the 90s earth child Lisa Bonet, whom begets today’s own poster child for quirky black girl style Zoe Kravitz. Whether these women are wearing an avant garde designer or a pair of 5 dollar jeans they are comfortable in their own skin. They stand apart from the crowd, showing that black women are more than one-dimensional.
This really spoke to me! Thanks Cocoa and Creme blog!
My favorite famous quirky black girl is Shingai Shoniwa!
Not every pretty girl in shorts is a slut. Not every fat girl isn’t trying to lose weight. Not every girl who listens to screamo wants to kill herself. Not every girl who self harms does it for attention. Not every girl with glasses is a complete nerd. Not every girl who is unattractive is single. Not every girl is what you think of her. Look deeper before you judge.